When to Ask for Help: A Letter to Exhausted Moms

Hey Mama,

If you're reading this at 3 AM while bouncing a baby who's been awake for two hours straight, or if you're wondering why everyone else seems to have this figured out while you're barely hanging on, this is for you.

The truth nobody talks about:

Those first months are brutal. Not Instagram-worthy brutal. Actually brutal. The kind where you forget what day it is and wonder if you'll ever feel human again.

And here's what we wish someone had told us: struggling doesn't mean you're doing it wrong.

When we started Rested, we were those parents too.

Week 3 with our newborn, pacing the nursery at 3:47 AM, both of us crying right alongside our baby. We had read every book, taken the classes, organized the perfect nursery. We thought we were prepared.

We weren't.

What we learned:

Getting help isn't admitting defeat; it's recognizing that some problems have solutions, and sleep deprivation isn't a badge of honor.

When we finally hired a night nurse, something shifted. Not just because we slept (though that was life-changing), but because we realized we could be better parents when we weren't running on fumes.

If you're on the fence about getting help:

Maybe you're worried about the cost. Maybe you think you should be able to handle this. Maybe you're afraid of judgment.

We get it. We felt all of that too.

But here's what we discovered: when you have support, you wake up as the parent you want to be. More patient. More present. More yourself.

That's why we built Rested.

Not because we think you're failing, but because we know what it feels like to need someone in your corner at 3 AM who actually knows what they're doing.

No judgment. No pressure to be perfect. Just real support when you need it most.

The hardest part is asking.

Everything else, we can help with.

Your Rested Team