Christmas Week with a Newborn: Living in a Different Dimension
It's December 23rd. Or maybe the 24th? You're not sure anymore because days stopped having names around the time your baby arrived.
Everyone else is living in "Christmas week", counting down days, wrapping presents, planning dinners. You're living in 3-hour increments between feedings. These are not the same timeline.
The Time Thing
Your sister texts: "See you at Christmas dinner, 3 PM!"
You stare at this message. 3 PM. You know that's a time that exists. You're just not sure if you'll be in the middle of a feeding, or desperately trying to get the baby to nap, or possibly still in the same pajamas you've been wearing since Tuesday. (Is today Tuesday?)
Time works differently now. Morning is whenever you see daylight. Night starts at 5 PM because it's December and you have 14 hours of darkness ahead of you. "Yesterday" and "today" blur together into one long cycle of feeding, changing, soothing, repeat.
Your mom is stressed about cookie recipes. You're trying to remember which breast you fed from last time.
What People Expect vs. What You Can Do
Here's the hard part: everyone around you has normal expectations. They think you'll want to come to the party, open gifts, make plans for New Year's.
You can barely think past the next diaper change.
Someone asks what you're doing for New Year's Eve and you almost laugh. The idea of being awake at midnight on purpose feels absurd.
The Stuff That's Not Happening
All those traditions you thought you'd keep? They require things you don't have right now: two free hands, the ability to stand for more than 10 minutes, clothes without spit-up on them, a stretch of time longer than 45 minutes.
Baking cookies. Not happening. Holiday movie marathon. Maybe 20 minutes before an interruption. Driving to see Christmas lights. That requires getting everyone in the car without a meltdown, which is its own kind of miracle.
You're not being difficult. You're just living in a different version of reality right now.
What Actually Counts
The baby makes eye contact with you, really sees you, for the first time. That's your Christmas magic.
You manage to shower and eat something with a fork. That's your holiday win.
Someone brings you food you can eat with one hand. That's your feast.
These moments don't look like much from the outside. They're everything right now.
You Can Say No
You can skip the party. Leave early from dinner. Tell relatives to wait until January to visit. Order Chinese food for Christmas. Leave gifts in their Amazon boxes.
None of this makes you ungrateful. It makes you honest about which reality you're currently living in.
The Truth About Recovery
Nobody can tell you exactly when regular time will come back. Maybe six weeks. Maybe three months. It's different for everyone.
But it will come back. Eventually, you'll know what day it is without checking your phone. You'll make plans. You'll care about things beyond feeding schedules.
Right now, though, you're here. In the weird, slow-motion bubble where time doesn't work right and Christmas is happening somewhere outside your window while you're just trying to survive.
Here's What Matters
Your baby won't remember this Christmas. They won't know if you did it "right."
What they'll have is you, showing up however you can, in whatever dimension you're currently living in.
If Christmas dinner is takeout and your only decoration is the glow from your phone at 2 AM, that counts.
If you ask for help so you can be present for an hour of the actual day, that counts.
If you treat December 25th like any other day in the newborn cycle, that counts too.
You're not doing it wrong. You're just operating in a different timezone than everyone else. And that's exactly where you need to be.
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