October Looks Different from Over Here

Let's Talk About What Nobody Posts

The disorienting part isn't just the exhaustion, it's the gap between worlds.

Your friend texts about weekend plans at the corn maze. Your neighbor's planning their annual Halloween party. Your sister sends you a link to matching family costumes.

And you're sitting there thinking: "I haven't left the house in four days and I'm not sure I remember how."

Nobody's posting about wearing the same pajamas for 72 hours. Or crying because you dropped the bottle you just washed. Or the strange panic that sets in when someone asks "how are you adjusting?" and you realize you don't have words for what this actually feels like.

The Part They Don't Mention

The newborn phase isn't just tiring. It's disorienting. You look at other people doing normal October things, going to haunted houses, planning costumes, hosting dinner parties, and it feels like watching life through a window.

Everyone talks about the lack of sleep. Fewer people talk about the weird guilt of not being able to muster excitement for things you used to love. Or the way your partner suggests apple picking and your immediate thought is "but what about the diaper bag, the feeding schedule, the inevitable meltdown in the parking lot?"

What You Don't Owe Anyone

• A costumed baby photo shoot.

• Energy you don't have.

• Hosting capabilities.

• Enthusiasm for seasonal activities.

• Updates on how you're doing (especially when the honest answer is "barely").

• An explanation for why you need help.

The Truth About Right Now

October means transition. That's the whole vibe of the month: things changing, preparing for what's next.

You're already there. You became a parent. Your body is recovering. Your brain is rewiring. Your entire life got rearranged, and everyone expects you to just... adjust seamlessly while also being grateful and glowing.

Maybe this year looks nothing like you planned. Maybe next year you'll care about fall activities again. Maybe you won't, and that's fine too.

The pumpkin patch will still exist. Your baby won't remember whether you took them at six weeks old.

What matters more is whether you're surviving this or if you've found a way to actually rest.

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